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LETTING LOVE IN

A 3-month coaching container to help you conquer your fear of intimacy and abandonment - so you can find (and keep) a happy, healthy, romantic relationship.

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UNLESS YOU'RE SECURELY ATTACHED, YOU'RE LIKELY GONNA STRUGGLE TO LET LOVE IN...

Maybe you lean avoidant - which means you consciously fear intimacy. You pull away, shut down, or keep love at arm’s length because closeness feels overwhelming.

Or maybe you lean anxious - which means you consciously fear abandonment. You chase emotionally unavailable partners, overfunction in relationships, or mistake chemistry for compatibility.

At first glance, these patterns appear to be opposites.

But look a little closer…

On an unconscious level, avoidantly attached people fear abandonment too. They distance themselves because it feels safer not to love at all than to love and lose.

 

Likewise, on an unconscious level, anxiously attached people fear intimacy. By pursuing the commitment-phobic, they never actually have to risk going all in themselves.

 

As Pia Mellody explains, these are simply two sides of the same coin - and in Letting Love In, I’ll show you how to flip this pattern so you can finally find (and keep) the kind of relationship you thought you’d be in by now…

DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU?

MAYBE…

 

  • You love being very close to your romantic partners and have a strong capacity for intimacy.

  • You often fear, however, that your partner does not want to be as close as you do.

  • Relationships tend to consume a large amount of your emotional energy.

  • You are highly sensitive to small fluctuations in your partner’s moods, tone, or behavior.

  • Even when your perceptions are accurate, you tend to take your partner’s behavior personally.

  • You experience a lot of difficult emotions within relationships and can become easily upset.

  • When overwhelmed, you sometimes act out or say things you later regret.

  • When a partner offers consistency, reassurance, and emotional safety, you can relax and feel genuinely content. 

 

OR PERHAPS…

 

  • It is very important for you to maintain your independence and self-sufficiency.

  • You often prefer autonomy over emotional closeness in romantic relationships.

  • Even though you do want connection, too much closeness can feel uncomfortable or overwhelming.

  • You tend to keep partners at arm’s length, especially as intimacy increases.

  • You don’t spend much time worrying about rejection or abandonment.

  • You tend not to open up emotionally, and partners may experience you as distant or closed off.

  • In relationships, you are often alert to signs of control or intrusion on your space.

  • Creating distance can feel safer than risking emotional dependence.
     
And it might even be the case that you recognize yourself in both of these lists - showing up one way when you’re with someone more distant, and another way when you’re with someone who wants more closeness…

WELL, JUST IMAGINE IF...

  • Being warm, open, and loving in a relationship comes naturally to you - without effort, strategy, or self-monitoring.

  • You’re able to enjoy intimacy and closeness without constantly worrying about where you stand or what might go wrong.

  • You take things in stride when it comes to romance, and relationship challenges no longer send you into emotional spirals.

  • You communicate your needs, boundaries, and feelings clearly and calmly - without fear, guilt, or over-explaining.

  • You’re attuned to your partner’s emotional cues and able to respond with steadiness rather than reactivity.

  • You feel safe sharing both your joys and your struggles, knowing you won’t be dismissed, abandoned, or overwhelmed.

  • You can be there for your partner in times of need - without losing yourself or carrying the relationship alone.

  • Love feels supportive, mutual, and grounding - not consuming, confusing, or fragile. 

  

 

 

Well, Letting Love In was designed with this exact transformation in mind, to bring you back to a place of security using my proprietary framework, The Whole Heart Method™.

INTRODUCING

LETTING LOVE IN

Over the next 3 months, I’ll walk you step by step through the 8 phases of The Whole Heart Method™ - the exact process that takes you from surviving to thriving in love: Reveal the Roles → Integrate the Parts → Meet Your Inner Family → Reparent the Self → Come Home to the Body → Restore Faith in a Higher Power → Find Healing in Fellowship → Practice the Principles in All Your Affairs.

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CLIENT LOVE NOTES
“I stopped chasing love - and it finally stopped running from me.”

Before working with Jenn, my relationships felt like an emotional full-time job. I was constantly analysing, reaching, over-giving, and trying to hold things together. I knew I was doing it, but I couldn’t stop.


 Through this work, something fundamental shifted. I feel calmer in connection, clearer in my communication, and far more secure in myself. I don’t spiral when someone takes space, and I no longer abandon myself to keep someone close. For the first time, love feels steady instead of exhausting - and I trust myself inside it.

Sarah L., Marketing Consultant
“I didn’t realise how much distance I was using to feel safe - until I didn’t need it anymore.”

I always thought I was just independent, but intimacy made me shut down in ways I couldn’t explain. I’d go quiet, pull away, or convince myself relationships weren’t right for me once they got close.


 Working with Jenn helped me understand what was actually happening underneath - and more importantly, how to change it. I’m more present, more open, and far less reactive when things deepen. I can stay instead of disappearing. My relationships feel warmer, more honest, and much less fragile than they ever have before.

Alex M., Creative Director
THE DEETS

HERE'S WHAT YOU GET:

  • ONBOARDING CALL
     We’ll begin with a private diagnostic session to uncover your unique patterns in love and map out the exact journey we’ll take together. You’ll leave with clarity on where you’re starting and what you’re working toward.

  • OFFBOARDING CALL
     In our final session, we’ll celebrate your breakthroughs and lay out your next steps - so you know exactly how to continue creating healthy love, with or without ongoing coaching.

  • 12 x 60-MINUTE COACHING CALLS (ZOOM)
     Weekly deep-dives where you’ll get live, tailored support as we walk through my proven process. This is where theory becomes transformation, and every session brings you closer to lasting intimacy.

  • DAILY TELEGRAM SUPPORT (M-F, 9-5)
     You’ll never feel alone between calls. Ask questions, share wins, or get support when triggers arise. I respond within one working day so you feel fully held throughout the container.

  • ACCESS TO MY COURSE: THE WHOLE HEART METHOD™
     Endorsed by therapists and coaches alike, this course delivers the core framework for rewriting your blueprint for love. You’ll understand the “why” behind your patterns and the exact steps to change them.

  • RESOURCE LIBRARY
     Workbooks, checklists, cheat sheets, journaling prompts, meditations, affirmation rampages, and more - all designed to help you integrate what you learn and embody it in daily life.

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THE WHOLE HEART METHOD™

PHASE 1
REVEAL THE ROLES

In this first phase, we bring awareness to the codependent survival role(s) you’re playing in your adult relationships. Most people fall into one of two patterns: the Pursuer (often called anxious attachment or love addiction) or the Distancer (often called avoidant attachment or love anorexia). They didn’t come from nowhere. Your adult patterns can be traced back to the childhood survival roles you adopted in your dysfunctional family system. By identifying both the role you’re playing now and where it came from, you begin loosening its grip and taking your first step out of survival and into truth.

PHASE 2
INTEGRATE THE PARTS

Here, we shift from judgment to relationship with the different parts of you. Using IFS-inspired parts work, you’ll meet the managers, firefighters, and exiles inside your system - the protectors and the wounded ones - and begin relating to them from your calm, compassionate Self. This is how you stop being hijacked by old coping patterns and start leading your inner world with love.

PHASE 3
MEET YOUR INNER FAMILY

You’ll reconnect with the tender figures still living inside you: your Inner Child who longs to be chosen, your Inner Teen who learned to rebel or shut down, and the critical parent voice you internalized. Instead of letting them silently run your relationships, you’ll learn to listen to them with compassion, give them what they never received, and free yourself from their unmet needs driving your love life.

PHASE 4
REPARENT THE SELF

Now you meet the part of you that didn’t exist back then - your Loving Inner Parent. This is where you practice self-soothing, building trust with yourself, and setting boundaries with compassion. You’ll learn to give yourself the consistency, safety, and unconditional love you always needed, so you stop looking to partners to rescue or re-raise you.

PHASE 5
COME HOME TO THE BODY

Patterns don’t just live in your mind - they live in your nervous system. In this phase, you’ll discover how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses shape your love life, and learn somatic tools to feel safe in connection. Instead of bracing for abandonment or collapse, you’ll begin to embody presence, calm, and receptivity, making intimacy feel safe instead of threatening.

PHASE 6
RESTORE FAITH IN A HIGHER POWER

You’ll begin leaning into a loving, trustworthy authority of your own definition - whether that’s God, Source, Spirit, your Higher Self, or simply something greater than fear. For many codependent people, others have unknowingly become their higher power - the source of safety, validation, and direction. In this phase, we gently reorient that, helping you build trust in something steady beyond another person. For some, this is also deeply reparative - especially if you weren’t properly parented.

PHASE 7
FIND HEALING IN FELLOWSHIP

Because what was wounded in relationship must be healed in relationship. In this phase, you’ll practice safe connection with others in a supportive community, learning to be seen, vulnerable, and accepted without performing or protecting. Fellowship retrains your system to believe it’s safe to belong, and shows you that love doesn’t have to be earned - it can simply be received.

PHASE 8
PRACTICE THE PRINCIPLES IN ALL YOUR AFFAIRS

Finally, we take everything you’ve learned into real life. You’ll practice showing up differently in dating, boundaries, conflict, and partnership. This is where you stop collapsing into old roles, regulate your emotions when intimacy feels scary, and consciously choose new actions. The result? Love that’s no longer a performance or a pattern - but a practice, lived out daily.

WHAT’S UP!

I’M JENN DUFFIE

An anxious-avoidant turned love educator and coach - who’s absolutely obsessed with helping women conquer their fears of intimacy and/or abandonment, so they can finally let love in.

 

I’ve helped hundreds of people with their romantic relationships - whether they’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between.

 

But make no mistake: I don’t do this work because love has always come easily to me.


 I do it because, for a long time, it didn’t.

 

I know exactly what it’s like to crave connection… and sabotage it at the same time through chasing the wrong people and running from the right ones.

That tension is what led me to make this work my life’s mission.

 

After decades of personal healing and professional training, I developed my proprietary framework, The Whole Heart Method™ - the process that underpins everything I offer. It’s the same method that transformed my own relationships, and has helped countless clients do the same.

 

My hope is that you find it as helpful as I have - and that it supports you to finally feel safe and secure enough to let love in.

 

Now, let’s get into the nuts and bolts...

MY CREDENTIALS:
  • Bachelor’s Degree in BBA
  • Master’s Degree in Marriage & Family Therapy
  • Accredited Transformational Coach
  • Proud member of 12-step recovery communities including ACA, CoDA, and SLAA
  • Founder of The Whole Heart Method™
  • Host of the You Up? podcast
  • Worked with hundreds of women across all stages of romantic relationship
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PROFESSIONAL ENDORSEMENT

HEAR WHAT ANOTHER EXPERT HAS TO SAY…
DR. VANESSA MCINTOSH

I’m Dr. Vanessa McIntosh. I hold a PhD in a psychology-related field, I’m trained in five therapeutic modalities - CBT, DBT, ACT, CFT, and SFT - and for the past ten years I’ve worked with women in the self-help space to create and market truly transformational products and services.

I’ve seen up the skirts of many businesses - and I can say, hand on heart, that Jenn is the real deal.

She’s not performative.
 She’s her whole self.

And she has a tremendous amount of value to share.

I’m more myself around Jenn than I am around most people - because she grants you permission to be. And through knowing and working with her, I’ve become more authentic around others too, and far more aligned in the choices I make and the actions I take across all of my relationships, romantic and otherwise.

I don’t offer endorsements lightly. But I highly recommend Jenn, and I endorse The Whole Heart Method™ with every cell of my being. If you listen to her guidance and apply what she teaches, you cannot not see results.

It would be both a pleasure and a privilege for you to join her container.

CLIENT LOVE NOTES
“I spent ten years in therapy. Three months with Jenn created the shift I’d been reaching for.”

I’m deeply pro-therapy - and it gave me a lot: insight, language, self-awareness, context. But if I’m honest, I still felt stuck in the same relationship patterns. I could explain them perfectly… and still repeat them.


 Working with Jenn was different. It wasn’t just understanding - it was integration. Week by week, I made actual changes in how I communicated, how I regulated, and what I tolerated. I stopped abandoning myself in the moment. I started choosing differently. And for the first time, love felt simpler - not because I lowered my standards, but because I raised my capacity for security.

Megan S., Therapist
“I’d consumed all the content. Jenn’s framework is what finally made it click - and stick.”

I was the person who had read every book, listened to every podcast, followed every expert. I had the language. I had the insight. I could spot patterns from a mile away.


 But information wasn’t creating transformation - it was just making me more aware of what I wasn’t changing. Jenn’s proprietary framework was the missing piece because it’s not just concepts - it’s a step-by-step process. And she doesn’t teach it from theory. She teaches it from lived experience and professional skill, which means you feel held and guided.
 That’s where the real alchemy happened for me. I didn’t just learn more - I became different.

Jasmine T., Founder
WHO IT’S FOR

THIS IS DEFINITELY FOR YOU, IF:

When you sense someone you love pulling away, you tend to…

 

  • Reach out repeatedly - calling, texting, or checking in more than usual - trying to restore connection or get reassurance.

  • Struggle to tolerate space, feeling unsettled when contact decreases or plans change.

  • Have emotional reactions that feel bigger than the moment - crying, getting angry, or feeling overwhelmed - in an attempt to feel close again.

  • Alternate between pursuing connection and pulling back, hoping the other person will notice and respond.

  • Try to provoke reassurance - by testing their interest, mentioning other options, or subtly checking whether you still matter.

  • Bring up the relationship’s future during moments of distress - questioning whether things are working or whether you should stay.

  • Become preoccupied with timing and responsiveness - watching the clock, rereading messages, or checking online activity for signs of connection or distance.

Or when someone gets emotionally closer to you, you tend to…

 

  • Shut down or go quiet - finding it hard to stay present in conversations that feel emotionally charged.

  • Create distance through busyness or distraction - working late, avoiding eye contact, or keeping conversations surface-level.

  • Say things you don’t fully mean in moments of overwhelm - statements that create space or push the other person back.

  • Question the relationship or threaten to leave when closeness starts to feel uncomfortable or restrictive.

  • Focus on your partner’s flaws or incompatibilities to regain a sense of emotional breathing room.

  • Delay responding to messages, ignore calls, or temporarily disengage to reduce the intensity of connection.

In Letting Love In, we’ll address the fears underlying these patterns and dissolve them - clearing the way for a romantic relationship that feels as safe as it is secure.
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THE INVESTMENT

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1,500

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3 monthly payments

  • 3 months inside Letting Love In
  • 12 x 60-minute private coaching calls
  • Daily Telegram support (Monday-Friday)
  • Full access to The Whole Heart Method™ course
  • Resource library + ongoing integration support
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$

4,000

SAVING $500

IN FULL
1 payment only

  • 3 months inside Letting Love In
  • 12 x 60-minute private coaching calls
  • Daily Telegram support (Monday-Friday)
  • Full access to The Whole Heart Method™ course
  • Resource library + ongoing integration support 
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